How I Rock My Marriage: Briana


Happy Monday, ELF readers! My name is Briana from Best Days of My Life.So here is a little bit about how my husband Russ and I rock our marriage. First, a little background: Russ and I have been dating since our senior year of High School (that's almost 13 years!!) and have been married for four. We have an adorable 16 month old, Carter.

Our Senior Prom - 2000
It might sound corny, but we are best friends. I think if you are going to stay (happily) together, you have to be. You have to be with someone that you can openly communicate with, someone that is on the same page with you, someone that can make you smile even on your worst of days. You also have to be able to find those special moments together, even when life is busy rushing by.

I'd like to say that we have a date night once a week or head out of town occasionally for a long weekend, but that's just not our life right now. Russ gets home late, I'm exhausted after a long day with Carter and other than our parents we've never hired a babysitter (besides the fact that I don't want to leave Carter with a sitter before he can talk, we really just don't enjoy being without him. We love having him around!).
Most nights Russ and I both just want to veg out come 8pm (when Carter goes to bed), so that's what we do. We actually break one of the "rules" of a happy marriage (at least according to Dr. Phil) and watch TV in bed. We have a handful that are "our shows" and we watch them together weekly. Big Bang Theory, Fringe, and Game of Thrones (how amazing has the 2nd season started off??!!) are a few of our "must sees."

I know this is not the most exciting way to rock our marriage, but right now it works for us. We get that quiet, alone time and for those 30-60 minutes cuddling with Russ is a way to reconnect. Sure there are other, seemingly more important things we do, but all I know is that at the end of a busy day there is no where I'd rather be than laughing with Russ over the idea of Sheldon dreaming of a talking Spock doll (B.B.T. fans will get that one...and yeah, I know we're geeks).

I'll end this guest post with a little advice on how to rock your marriage. Find something that works for the two of you, no matter how small. Find those little moments that bring you back together. As the philosopher Lao Tzu once said, "Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you." It may not be the romantic evening of dinner and dancing or strolls along the beach, but while I listen to my little guy snooze on the monitor and snuggle up with my hubby, I know that life doesn't get any better than this.

Thanks, Briana! Be sure to check out her blog and if you'd like to be featured on How I Rock My Marriage Mondays, email me!
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  1. Aw, I think that's great! And I totally agree. Hubs and I have three kids and the oldest is only 3.5 years old. I am so exhausted by the time he comes home from work that I just make sure the kids are set up with dinner and then I collapse on the couch or take a shower while he takes over. We have a little family time, we put the kids to bed, and then we watch tv together. That's our life right now. Dates are few and far between. But it's working just fine for us and it won't be this way forever. :)

  2. Wow, April!! Three kids under 3.5?!! How do you do it?? I'm exhausted and that's just with one! I think some people think my hubs and I are fuddy duds because we don't like to go much these days, but relaxing at home really is the best right now. And just like you said, it won't be this way forever. One day we'll look back and miss the days of diapers, drool & all that fun stuff ;)

  3. I love your prom pic! My husband & I have been together since our senior year of high school too, but we broke up right before prom & ended up not going together. =( I'd do anything to have that picture of me in my sequin-y gown be with him instead of my date that night. We've been together for over 14 years now & married for almost 10 with 3 kids under the age of 6. I home school & he works 24 hour shifts as a paramedic so we DVR "our shows" and watch them in bed together after the kids are down as well. Hands down my favorite part of the day, relaxing in his arms watching Raw & Smackdown, lovingly arguing about who's going to win =D (We do watch other shows together, but man, I love watching wrestling since he got me started on it!)


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