Our Senior Prom - 2000
It might sound corny, but we are best friends. I think if you are going to stay (happily) together, you have to be. You have to be with someone that you can openly communicate with, someone that is on the same page with you, someone that can make you smile even on your worst of days. You also have to be able to find those special moments together, even when life is busy rushing by.
I'd like to say that we have a date night once a week or head out of town occasionally for a long weekend, but that's just not our life right now. Russ gets home late, I'm exhausted after a long day with Carter and other than our parents we've never hired a babysitter (besides the fact that I don't want to leave Carter with a sitter before he can talk, we really just don't enjoy being without him. We love having him around!).
Most nights Russ and I both just want to veg out come 8pm (when Carter goes to bed), so that's what we do. We actually break one of the "rules" of a happy marriage (at least according to Dr. Phil) and watch TV in bed. We have a handful that are "our shows" and we watch them together weekly. Big Bang Theory, Fringe, and Game of Thrones (how amazing has the 2nd season started off??!!) are a few of our "must sees."
I know this is not the most exciting way to rock our marriage, but right now it works for us. We get that quiet, alone time and for those 30-60 minutes cuddling with Russ is a way to reconnect. Sure there are other, seemingly more important things we do, but all I know is that at the end of a busy day there is no where I'd rather be than laughing with Russ over the idea of Sheldon dreaming of a talking Spock doll (B.B.T. fans will get that one...and yeah, I know we're geeks).
I'll end this guest post with a little advice on how to rock your marriage. Find something that works for the two of you, no matter how small. Find those little moments that bring you back together. As the philosopher Lao Tzu once said, "Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you." It may not be the romantic evening of dinner and dancing or strolls along the beach, but while I listen to my little guy snooze on the monitor and snuggle up with my hubby, I know that life doesn't get any better than this.
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