I've learned a lot on my near 3 year journey into motherhood. Didn't she just say she has a 2 year old? Yes, I did...but I felt like a mommy, or my "training" started the minute I saw that 2nd pink line on my pregnancy test. Here's a few things I've learned in my journey:
- Do what works best for you and your family. You will constantly run into advice on everything and everything the moment you tell people you're pregnant. Some of it will be great advice and you will hear suggestions you never would have thought of otherwise. The majority of it will be unwanted by you and might even get you down. At the end of the day, do what works best for you, baby, and your husband/partner and try to ignore all the naysayers.
- Be open to trying something you never thought you would. This kind of plays off part of my previous point. I never thought I would have to sleep train my baby. It's not for everyone, and I know that, but I'm sure glad my friend lent me her sleep training book. At the time, it felt like it saved my life! Last month I also had a momfession about cloth diapering. You see, I'm a huge advocate and love cloth diapering, but when my son started getting a bad reaction to his night diapers, I needed to be open to using disposables again for awhile and had a hard time, but learned to not to feel guilty about it.
- Be honest with yourself. I read a very inspiring blog post from a friend a couple of weeks ago about how the lack of sleep is getting to her, sometimes the baby seems to cry for no reason, and she has caught herself yelling at her baby to "Stop! Just STOP IT!" I've been there. I've done that. I think it is so important to be honest with how we're truly feeling. This way we can recognize when we need more help, support, sleep, whatever the case may be. I've been at that exact same point with my infant son and realized that I needed to start asking my husband for more help and not trying to do it all, all the time. I have found it extremely useful to have support groups with my IRL friends, blog friends, and also my due date groups online in forums.
- S.O.S. This is one of the easiest pieces of advice I've ever received as a new mother. Try every day to:
- Shower - Doesn't it make you feel SO much better to even just have a shower? It makes me feel so human, especially in the newborn stage when you feel all grimey and covered in spit up!
- Outside - Fresh air is also an instant mood booster. This isn't possible everyday for everyone, but try to get outside, even for a little bit, as often as you can.
- Sleep - Whenever, wherever you can. It took me a long time to learn this, probably a few weeks into Braden's newborn life, but rest is so essential to functioning properly! I will definitely need to remember this when we have our next baby!
Well, I could probably go on and on, but those are the most important points I've learned on what is to now be the rest-of-my-life journey of motherhood! Thanks again, Libby, for having me guest post!